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Wife Swapping FAQ: Do's and Don'ts for New Couples

New to wife swapping? The questions couples ask, and the do's and don'ts that matter.

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New to wife swapping?

New to wife swapping? Wife swapping couples come from all walks of life, ages, races and religions, but they have one thing in common: they enjoy sex as something to share with other people!

We suggest you sign up and message other couples. You'll soon find most have the same questions and doubts you do. Talking to members and reading the stories here, based on real wife swap experiences, will give you a better idea of what wife swapping is really like.

Your first meet with another couple

When you meet another couple, make the first "date" a social one, in a pub or restaurant, to get to know each other. If you all get along, arrange another evening to take things further. It's not keys in a bowl these days!

Wife swapping do's and don'ts

  • Couple - that's what you are and it must be a joint decision to try wife swapping, you must both be completely happy & comfortable with the idea
  • Alcohol - a drink to steady the nerves and being sociable is fine but you don't want to get drunk or you wont be able to perform properly, you might do something you'll regret or embarrass yourself
  • Limits - as a couple decide beforehand what you will & wont do and before any 'action' starts make sure that all partners are aware of the boundaries in place for the evening's swap
  • Jealousy - it may be difficult to tell before you try but if either of you feel at all jealous then tell the other one immediately and agree that it is not for you as it wont stop if you try again!
  • Safe Sex - you must be responsible for your health and it is probably advisable to use condoms, definitely first time round with a new couple but many do prefer to go bareback!
  • No - means no, always respect others and if anyone is uncomfortable stop! !

Our most important advice for any couple thinking about wife swapping: talk about it, a lot, before you try it. Fantasising about it can be a great turn-on, but are you sure it's what you both want?

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New swapping couples can find their feet with all this.

Free members

  • New couples join free - Basic membership is free for couples new to swapping.
  • Your first swap profile - Say you're new, what you'd like to try and your limits, with photos.
  • Couples with the same questions - Browse other couples, new and experienced.
  • First-timer matches - Couples who suit you as first-timers, suggested every day.
  • Message couples before you meet - A set number of messages each day, with VIP replies free.
  • Verified first-time couples - Free ID verification, and an admin check on each couple.

Paid members also get

  • Couples near you for a first drink - Search by town and distance for couples to meet socially first.
  • Unlimited first-swap messages - Message as many couples as you like.
  • Ask experienced couples - Swingers' chat rooms, and private group chats of up to 50.
  • Couples who like your profile - See which couples have liked your first-swap profile.

More wife swapping questions

Who goes wife swapping?

Couples from all walks of life, all ages, races and religions.

Should our first meet be sexual?

Many couples make the first meet a social drink or meal, then arrange another night if they get on.

How much should we drink?

A drink to steady the nerves is fine, but don't get drunk.

What if one of us feels jealous?

Say so straight away, and agree it may not be for you.

Should we use condoms?

It's sensible, especially the first time with a new couple, though some couples prefer bareback.

What happens if someone is uncomfortable?

Stop. No means no, and everyone's limits must be respected.

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