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How to Host a Wife Swap Party: Tips for First-Time Hosts

Hosting your own wife swap party at home? Invites, dress codes, drinks and house rules.

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Hosting your own swap party

Whether you've been to a wife swap party or not, hosting one at your own house can be a daunting prospect, so here are some hints and tips to smooth the way.

It's not a good idea to throw a wife swapping party if it's your first time swapping. That's nerve-racking enough, and as hosts you want to be able to relax once everyone arrives!

Want advice on setting up a wife swapping party? Ask the members who host them, by message or in the members' chat rooms.

Wife swap party tips

  • Invites - plan ahead, unless you already know who you'll be inviting, give yourself a good month to announce it, send out invites, receive replies and it is good practice to reply to all requests even if it is to say no
  • Dress Code/Themes - again this is up to you but tell everyone from the start, for non themed parties the dress code is normally smart casual for gents and sexy or see-through for the ladies, but some ladies wear smart casual to feel more comfortable
  • Food & Drink - it is entirely up to you whether you provide food/nibbles but you can't expect people not to drink, so most people ask couples to bring their own drinks but it is always good for you to have soft drinks & mixers available
  • Smoking - it is perfectly acceptable to ask people not to smoke inside your house but it is worth providing ashtrays outside to save your garden
  • Towels & Condoms - it is generally accepted that guests will bring their own towels, condoms, lubes, etc but obviously you will have to let them use your bathroom/toilet

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Set your house rules

List your house rules in your swingers advert so everyone knows where they stand from the start, and repeat them in your invites so there are no misunderstandings on the night. For your first party, start small with just a few couples so you can relax and enjoy it, then invite more next time if it goes well.

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Couples hosting or going to swap parties can use all of this.

Free members

  • Free for party hosts - Hosting couples can join as basic members at no cost.
  • Advertise your swap party - Put your party and house rules in your profile, with photos.
  • Couples to invite - Browse swapping couples and singles near you.
  • Party guests suggested - Each day you'll see members who might suit your party.
  • Send invites by message - A set number of messages a day for invites, and VIP replies are free.
  • Verified party guests - Free ID verification, and admins check each guest's profile.

Paid members also get

  • Guests near your home - Search by town and distance so guests don't travel too far.
  • Invite without limits - Paid members can message every couple they'd like to invite.
  • One chat for the whole party - Set up a private group chat for up to 50 guests.
  • Couples keen on your party - See which couples have liked your party profile.

Wife swap party questions

How far ahead should we plan a swap party?

Give yourself about a month to announce it, send invites and get replies.

What's the usual dress code?

Smart casual for men and something sexy for women, unless it's a themed party.

Should hosts provide drinks?

Most hosts ask guests to bring their own drinks, but have soft drinks and mixers ready.

Who brings towels and condoms?

Guests usually bring their own towels, condoms and lube.

Can we ban smoking indoors?

Yes. It's fine to ask guests to smoke outside.

How big should our first party be?

Start small, with just a few couples, so you can relax and enjoy it.

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