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The Wife Swapping Lifestyle: Is It Right for You?

Is the wife swapping lifestyle right for your relationship? What to think about first.

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Is the wife swapping lifestyle for you?

Is the wife swapping lifestyle for you? Here are some things to discuss before you even think about trying it. It isn't for everybody, and although it's great fun, you need to be sure it's right for your relationship.

Lots of couples find the wife swapping lifestyle a great way to meet like-minded couples and friends, and often those friendships last, if that's what you want.

What couples say about swapping

The important thing to know is that swapping won't fix a weak relationship, and only stable couples should consider it. But couples who have tried swapping and swinging have reported that:

  • 70% of wife swapping couples said that joining in with the wife swapping lifestyle improved their relationship
  • Half of couples, both married and in a long term relationship questioned who were happy before trying partner swapping said they were even happier now
  • Just under 70% claimed to have absolutely no problems with seeing their partners with another person
  • About a quarter admitted having difficulty with jealousy and 6% said jealousy was a major problem

The big questions to ask yourselves

So the big questions are: are you a jealous person? What kind of swapping do you want to try? And do you both want to try it, not just one of you?

Types of wife swapping

  • Soft Swap - this is the route a lot of first time couples entering the wife swapping lifestyle try first. Basically it's about touching, kissing and light play but no penetration : more info on Soft Swop
  • Full Swap - tends to be what people think of when considering wife swapping, full intercourse with someone else's partner : more info on Full Swap
  • Threesomes - when you want to consider sharing your other half with a male or female partner : more info on Threesomes
  • Cuckold - not really wife swapping as such but I thought it a good idea to mention it here, it's for the husbands that want to watch the wife getting fucked by another man : more info on cuckolds !

What's next?

So you've thought about the kind of swapping you want, and you're both happy to try it. What's next? First, sign up and pick a username, as that's the name on your profile. That brings us neatly to writing a good wife swapping profile . Then have fun making contacts and get swapping!

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What you get as a member

Couples starting the lifestyle get all of this.

Free members

  • Start the lifestyle free - Basic membership is free for couples.
  • A couple's lifestyle profile - Say what kind of swapping you both want, and add photos.
  • Lifestyle couples to browse - See couples who've made swapping part of their lives.
  • Lifestyle matches - Each day, couples who suit your lifestyle are put forward.
  • Make new swapping friends - Message a set number of couples a day, with VIP replies free.
  • Couples you can trust - Free ID verification, and admins check every lifestyle couple.

Paid members also get

  • Lifestyle couples near you - Find lifestyle couples by town, distance and experience.
  • Message lifestyle couples freely - No daily cap on messages.
  • Lifestyle chat and groups - Members' chat rooms and private group chats for up to 50.
  • Couples who liked your lifestyle profile - See which lifestyle couples have liked you.

Wife swapping lifestyle questions

Can swapping fix a struggling relationship?

No. Only stable couples should try it; it won't make a weak relationship stronger.

Do couples find swapping improves their relationship?

Many of those who've tried it say it did, though a minority found jealousy a problem.

What's the difference between a soft and full swap?

A soft swap is touching and kissing without penetration; a full swap includes intercourse.

Is cuckolding the same as wife swapping?

Not really. In cuckolding the husband watches his wife with another man rather than swapping.

Do swapping couples become friends?

Often, yes. Many couples build long friendships through swapping.

What should we do first?

Talk it through, agree the kind of swapping you want, then sign up and write a good profile.

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